Eva is on holiday, my brother is visiting, and I am alternating between feeling really good and feeling really worried.
I worry about money, spending too much and earning too little.
And I worry about Eva. How is she handling her parents' separation? Have we scarred her for life? Will she find a
loving partner, or will she re-create our ups-and-downs?
For me, the best way to get out of worrying is to pay attention to the little things. That always always always makes
me feel so much better :-).
Some little-things impressions from this week:
Dad,
and offspring Harry, named after
this obsession:
Animals everywhere:
Still life with my brothers' laptop:
My brother, who is unfortunately leaving again tomorrow:
Have a great weekend!
Lots of love,
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The flowers look great :-)
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Jutta! You are teaching Eva to be well-rounded like you, to care about family, to love animals, to appreciate literature, to be herself and to protect her joy. She'll be fine!! As for money? I don't have enough of it, but I have enough of everything else!
ReplyDeleteJutta, ich kann Danni nur recht geben. Die Kinder leben irgendwann ihr eigenes Leben und ziehen aus dem was sie bei uns sehen ihre ganz eigenen Schlüsse. Ich denke meine haben aus der Trennung ihrer Eltern wichtige Dinge gelernt, die ihnen verwehrt gewesen wären, wenn wir unsere Ehe, in der wir aneinander vorbei gelebt haben, weiter geführt hätten.
ReplyDeleteDeine Hunde sind so lieb, ihre Blicken bringen einem zum Schmelzen!
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Jutta
I'm entranced with all the subtle shades and texture in your home. I guess texture is my new obsession. Animals, nature and books go without question. I'm glad you had your brother spending some time with you. He would have been a welcome distraction from Ava's constant conversation about Harry Styles!
ReplyDeleteI think more children are damaged by parents who stayed together when they should have separated than by parents who separate.
ReplyDeleteRemember not to wait for life to happen--get out there and make it happen! Between your healing practice, writing, photography, and all-round creativity, you have so much to offer.
I think whether or not she will be scarred depends on the level of conflict between you and her Dad. My family member had a awful divorce and the kids were scarred by the hatred between the 2 parents.
ReplyDeleteI understand that you are worried. I was separated (twice) and now back with my husband and I think that scarred my daughter. For that I always feel guilty, but on the other hand, she had a good mother and father all along. No one had a full bag 100% great. Some good some bad is life. Try not to attribute everything she does to the separation. Kids (especially teenage girls) have many moments of being absolutely horrible whether or not the parents are together. As long as she knows she is loved. And she will hopefully learn to be careful picking a partner later on.
From another angle, my parents were awful together. I hated being in the same house as my father and I prayed that she would leave him. I was far more damaged by her decision to stay than I ever would have been as the child of a single mum.
It's been said above, but I feel that oftentimes being apart can be better than staying together while unhappy. Sometimes it's inevitable to worry about these big things, but it's thinking about the little (happy) things that can help keep us grounded. I saw on Nifty Thrifty Things that you won the month of free advertising - that's a little (happy) thing! And it reminded me to stop by your new blog. Sorry I haven't done it before now! I love your pictures - it's always lovely to see some of the snapshots of your life.
ReplyDeleteJutta you have a gorgeous daughter, beautiful surroundings, such sweet animals and people who love you . Your girl will be fine, keep doing what you're doing, and you're doing great. I lost my dad at 16 and I still turned out great, my mom raised me well. And all will work out for you - it will! Big hugs and lots of love xxxxx
ReplyDeleteShe will be perfect. I assure you she will be fine. She will only grow stronger and wiser. I love your blog and think you are an amazing photographer. I have been visiting for a while now and this is the first time I write a comment. Need to handle the mommy guiltiness cause that is the one thing she will sense. Everyone, EVERYONE is a bit scarred one way or the other. EVERYONE has up and downs. Also if she needs to handle it and figure it out she will be able to. I know this in my own flesh coming from divorced parents.
ReplyDeleteIt is sad and strong but a separation is also an opportunity. You and she will be perfect. Love your blog, LOVE IT. It is inspiring.
Thanks so much for your lovely comment! And for the encouragement. Right now it is going very well, and Eva told me yesterday that this is 'the best Easter ever', despite her dad being away on a camping trip. She seems to be ok as long as i talk nicely about (and to) her father :-)
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jutta
What a lovely post. Your pets are so cute!! I'm sure Eva will be fine, don't be affraid. You'll teach her by example to step into her power and stop when things ought to be stopped...that is wise and she'll get it sooner or later. You're such a creative and corageous woman Jutta! I'm sending you tons of love.
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