We are so
often our own worst critics. I know all the arguments for being hard on
yourself:
it makes you grow, this is how you learn, spare the rod and spoil
the child….
Most of us
grew up with this kind of stuff, and if you escaped it in your family you got
it in school
and at work.
And now it
is so much easier for us to criticize ourselves then to praise ourselves.
But whenever
you do that you WILL feel worse.
It pulls you down.
It makes you sad or angry
or depressed.
How can
this ever be good?
Of course
there are times when you could have reacted better, when you could have been
smarter,
when you made a mistake or hurt somebody.
If that is the case apologize and then let it
go.
No need to carry it around, no need to re-visit it or mull it over or beat
yourself up.
You are not
helping.
ANYBODY, no
matter where they come from, no matter their age or sex or culture, responds
better
to praise then to criticism.
Even you :-)
Cut
yourself some slack. Start loving who you are, if you think you deserve it or
not.
And the
easiest way to do that is to not allow any thoughts that pull you down.
Your body,
your mind is your temple, this is the only place you have to feel safe and
loved and beautiful.
So what are
you doing letting these negative thoughts in?
If it doesn’t make you feel good,
kick it out.
And when
you feel better you will effortlessly behave better, be kinder, be more loving…
Effortlessly!
Doesn’t that
sound good? :-)
Love
Jutta, who now has to go back to doing the washing
Post scriptum for all non-desert-dwellers
The secret to making it rain:
- hang up as much washing as possible
- wash your car
- water the garden AND
- plan
an outdoor party!
Et voila, the clouds are building :-)
Well that was a lovely thing to read first thing in the morning! :) It is true. Attitude is everything!
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~Liz
No matter how loved or loving you are, there are times when you only have yourself. Hopefully, we've done the work to be comfortable in that place. Thanks for the thoughts! ~ Maureen
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